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    June 08

    How to control?

    天气真正的炎热起来,打开窗户涌进屋的不再是或浑浊或清爽的风,而是一股夹杂着各种被烤了五成熟的东西的味道。炎热的天气容易让人焦躁。
     
    时间、地点、天气、交通、别人、自己、欲望、失望、开销、收入、过去、未来以及种种的种种,生活中有多少东西是需要我们控制的?而又有多少是我们所能控制的?
     
    第一个问题的答案似乎是无穷尽,第二个问题的答案似乎是nothing。
     
    我们时常会因为一件打乱我们节奏、破坏我们计划,使一切都out of control的倒霉事情而抓狂,也时常因为一件屁大点的其实暗藏玄机,但貌似尽在掌握事情,而沾沾自喜得意洋洋。我们都是小尘埃。
     
    在妄图控制一切之前,最先要控制的是自己。而万事开头难,控制自己,也是最难的。
     
    我们从小学习如何控制自己,控制自己的生理,吃喝拉撒睡——初级,然后控制自己的心理,情绪——中级、欲望——高级,包括幻想——超级。
    人家说:懂得控制欲望,是成熟的标志。修炼到了高级才有资格假装自己成熟。
     
    而我们身边的大部分人,最主要是我自己,还在学习如何控制情绪,甚至有时倒退回控制不了自己的睡眠。(失眠神经病,嗜睡是什么?我觉得也是神经病)
     
    经常激动,而不能有效控制情绪,应该就是所谓的情商低,缺乏包容和宽容,缺乏自信和乐观,too naive。
     
    写字的思路因为我妈吃西瓜的命令戛然而止,只好就此打住,俺去吃也。

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    Nina Zhangwrote:
    是啊,现在写博的朋友益发稀少了 
    你坚持啊。。我看好你哟
    June 10
    璐 刘wrote:
    呜呼唉哟亚呼嘿~~行,我努力~~你古文功力大增啊~~在丹麦教中文呢吧?!呵呵呵呵~~
    June 10
    Dong Liwrote:
    话说长久以来孤王一向以刘大美女的文章为榜样,时常拜读,却不知何故,自打刘大美女考研以后文章甚少,憾之,突闻刘大美女再次更新,屁颠儿跑来,大喜,读之,甚同,恭之,贺之,望以后多更新之~ 呜呼唉哟亚呼嘿~~
    June 10
    璐 刘wrote:
    亲爱滴,你怎么还玩起神秘了……Liu我都不知道是谁,还臆想了半天,以为我又多了fans,结果发现是你~~
     
    宝贝儿,take it easy~没有过不去的坎儿,既然out of control,那索性就爱怎地怎地吧~~
    June 10
    璐 刘wrote:
    胡老师,我再彪悍也彪悍不过你啊~~
    June 10
    cn Liuwrote:
    out of control too
    June 9
    子钦 胡wrote:
    又开始码字啦,等级够高的呀!现在段位越发飙悍了!
    June 9
    晋洛wrote:
    我们时常会因为一件打乱我们节奏、破坏我们计划,使一切都out of control的倒霉事情而抓狂,也时常因为一件屁大点的其实暗藏玄机,但貌似尽在掌握事情,而沾沾自喜得意洋洋。我们都是小尘埃。
    这个非常赞同
    June 8
    柳 崔wrote:
    来之不易的一张沙发啊!好文章,好音乐,不过其实有时候也不用控制。项目管理说,the very beauty of the project is uncertainty,我觉得其实也可以享受那种突如其来的感觉,处之泰然。
    June 8

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